Dealing with the SILENCE....

...shhhhhhhhhhh....whhhhhooooooooooooossshhhhhh.....shhhhhhh..


Hmmmmmm.....ya well that was the only one sound that I could hear nonstop from my first apartment window on the 9th floor when I landed here.....that was sound of the wind passing by my window all day round....Adjusting to ABSOLUTE SILENCE was a Big Big Change for me ...specially coming from a house full of people and and close neighborhood full of friends and loved once....

It was hard yet on one level it was soooooo peaceful, quite and serene...it gave all that time to retrospect and be thankful to My God for every little happiness and special moments that he has gifted me in my life that I could think about in that Silence....


Looking out at those passing cars on the Bridge faraway from my window.... made me feel that comfortable and alive.....it also made me realize of how quickly time passes by....


A girl from a small town in India with small dreams and little hopes and wishes, trying to create her own little new world.... here in this Huge country, among these big buildings,and big bridges......

Your First Cultural Shock

Hey ladies...remember your first month in America....when you just landed ...there was so much to learn and so many surprises ....well the first one that I felt was when I was crossing the road for the very first time in Portland Downtown...Standing at the sideway...waiting to cross and the cars stopped......Specially for ME....YES for me to cross....that took me by surprise ...I was just standing at the side when the cars just stopped and allowed me to go first ...honestly I was still not sure whether or not it was safe to cross or something was wrong with them....(specially after crossing roads for yrs in our desh....the way we run to save our lives....Funny isn't ...pls share urs....

Post Your Favorite Recipes

Hi...here is my Favorite Recipes that my maa makes often ...whenever we get together....this is of course dedicated to my maa...thanks maa for everything...;D


Paneer ki Kheer

Servings: 4 people

Ingredients:
Milk- 2 lts
Sugar- add to taste
Paneer/cottage cheese- small cut pieces
Cardamom/eliachi- just a pinch
Almonds (Cut/sliced)- optional

Directions
1. Cut Paneer into small pieces and keep aside in a small bowl.

2. Boil the Milk in a heavy saucepan and let it simmer over low heat. Cook, covered 50 minutes, stirring occasionally, until condensed. Stir in sugar and cardamom and cook 20 minutes more and add the cut paneer pieces now.

3.Remove from the heat. Serve topped with almonds.Can be served warm or cold.

Ladies if you would like to share or add your special recipes...please feel free to add it in the comments column....

Well I was always touched by the small yet great sacrifices that we women make....in almost every phase of our lives...that might go unnoticed and unspoken for days, months or even years to come....it could have been for our families (parents,in-laws,siblings,relatives), or it could have been for our husbands, and most importantly for our kids.

Somehow it amazing to see that it still doesn't make us any weaker than our male counterparts...but instead ...for some reason we grow stronger and stronger by each passing day and have that capacity to face life's toughest challenges or even to endure painful experiences and still find that strength and power within ourselves to emerge as a winner...no matter how painful the process might have been....

For some of you who are reading my blog and are currently sacrificing some strong desire or wishes, to be somewhere, someplace else either in your life or position....

My word of wisdom to you all is "Focus not on what you want and that you don't have now...but on what you have for now and enjoy it while it last ...for eventually you would have what you want ......for sure"

For now just ENJOY BEING A WONDERFUL WOMEN THAT YOU ARE...

Some good quotes for women and their sacrifices ....

BARACK OBAMA:
She was the cornerstone of our family and a woman of extraordinary accomplishment, strength and humility. She was the person who encouraged and allowed us to take chances. [with his sister, on the death of his grandmother Madelyn Dunham just before the November 2008 election]

As quoted by ELAINE HEFFNER:
Women do not have to sacrifice personhood if they are mothers. They do not have to sacrifice motherhood in order to be persons. Liberation was meant to expand women's opportunities, not to limit them. The self-esteem that has been found in new pursuits can also be found in mothering.

JACQUELINE KENNEDY ONASSIS:
I am a woman above everything else.

Welcome Visa Wives...This Blog is dedicate to all you wives around the world, who are residing away from their home country, friends and family,and are either not allowed to work or study because of their visa status or any other good reason (children etc)....

Hi,my name is Aishwarya , I am a visa wife myself.....the reason I started this blog is to share my story with all of you. Also to give you all a respectable platform where you might be able to share your own story and for you to find some friends online who might be feeling the same way coming from different parts of the globe. Share your story about sacrificing your careers, jobs, family whatever you left behind at your home...your precious memories....

Talk it all out to somebody who is just like you....can understand you, without judging you and perhaps giving a comfort & hope for a wonderful life to look forward to.... working ...being independent and giving you the respect that you deserve and letting you know that you are not alone.... make some new friends for life perhaps ....

Well here is my side of story
I came to USA seven years ago ...the year was 2003 , I still remember leaving my family and friends and loved one and saying my final goodbye to them in India . It was hard much harder that I thought it would be. ….for the first two yrs I was on visa status which allowed me to do nothing....and then I was on H4 for the next 4 years that allowed me to study without working.... which literally meant a depended wife for a long time .....of an H1 holding hubby....still my hubby supported me thru and thru in my education, in dealing with day when I feeling low, depressed, gloomy, loss of confidence, but the only thing that I did not let it go was the Hope that one day everything would be the way I want it to be….

There was a phase in my life when I had literally no friends in local area to talk to or to share my thoughts, my feelings, little moments of happiness or desperate thoughts to go back home and to be with my family and friends...

But now that's a thing of past as of today I am graduate in Economics....happily working...looking after a 2 yr old ...who keeps me on my toes......have a huge social circle...and few wonderful friends and Family who always stand by when I need them the most....a supporting and a loving hubby....and a undying desire to help others who might be going through the same depressing phase...of loneliness....and homesickness.....and hopelessness.

So share your opinions,advices,stories, recommendations,tips,hobbies,interest, recipes whatever you think might help,others and you.......in getting inspired,motivate or ...to live a better live.....in a home away from home....

Disclaimer: This is my opinion about the subject matter , no harm or no bais against any law or country is meant.